Category Archives: Mindset

Phobia Shaming

The disturbing recent trend among social justice warriors to attribute any attitude or behaviour that they don't like in other people as if it resulted from a diagnosable mental illness. Examples include the pejorative use of labels such as homophobia and Islamophobia.

Shaming people for their fears is shameful

Shaming people for their fears is shameful

The implication is that sufferers of such "phobias" are weak, inferior people who should simply change their attitude by snapping out of their irrational fear.

This is demeaning to people who suffer from actual phobias, which in fact are no easier to fix, improve or change than a person's sexual orientation or deeply held religious beliefs.… Continue reading…

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Quantum Consciousnonsense

The annoying recent trend among popular western mindfulness meditation advocates of pretending that mental processes like consciousness are best explained by quantum theory.

Heisenberg would certainly dispute Quantum Consciousness on principle.

Heisenberg would certainly dispute Quantum Consciousness on principle.

In fact, while the brain and body are highly complex and not yet fully understood, they almost certainly operate via predictable biochemical neurological processes, which occur several orders of magnitude above the quantum domain.

Essentially a modern day version of The God of The Gaps, attempting to fill the hole in current scientific knowledge with wishful but empowering platitudes.… Continue reading…

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26 Ways To Get The Hell Over Your Fear Of Making Mistakes

I'm not going to lie to you: making mistakes still freaks me out. There's something about getting things wrong that causes me to break out into a cold sweat. Even if I'm at home playing music by myself, just the thought "What if I get it wrong?" induces enough panic to throw my concentration out, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Does Making Mistakes Still Freak You Out Too?

Does Making Mistakes Still Freak You Out Too?

It's easy enough to see where this paranoia comes from. I grew up with a mother who criticised my father for almost everything that he said and did, and this led to arguments that I found very frightening. Most of those arguments were about who was right and who was wrong in the previous argument, so I learned from a very young age that it was extremely important to be right all the time if you wanted to avoid degrading humiliation and … Continue reading…

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The Voices Inside My Head

Graham: I have a confession to make: there are these two voices in my head, vying for my attention all the time. I think I'll make a video about them for my YouTube channel.

Love: Oh cool, that sounds awesome! Everyone has voices in their head; so many people will relate. This video, is going viral!

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How I Won The Entrepreneurs Master Class Kick Ass Goal Competition

If you're interested in what I did to rank among the winners of the Entrepreneurs Master Class Big Ass Goal Competition in March 2015, here's what my submission looked like:

Name: Graham Stoney

Please state your original goal:

Get on TV doing comedy by 13th February 2015

Have there been any changes to your goal since the original submission? If so, what changes in direction have you taken and why?

The basic strategy is to intuitively create funny stuff, see what works, put a comedy routine together that I can deliver on TV... and start stalking The Chaser team from ABC TV.

It's proven rather challenging; but hey, it's a stretch goal so that's normal, right?

What are the key action that you have taken toward your goal?

  • Wrote it in my goal book. Worried about Meditated on it every day.
  • Completed a Stand-Up Comedy course with City East Community
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Hypnotic Prosperity Meditation For Making Lots Of Money

If you want to generate loads of money quickly, it's very important to have the right mindset. All too often we've been taught negative beliefs around money right from early childhood. Our subconscious has been programmed with a scarcity mentality that causes us to repel wealth and prosperity; even though consciously we'd much rather be rolling in money like a pig in mud than struggling with financial poverty.

Think abundance, not scarcity

Think abundance, not scarcity

Think abundance, not scarcity.

Yet the scarcity mentality is incredibly pervasive in our society and can have a strong hold over us, so it takes some effort to break. Since the blockage is subconscious, the best way to address it is via hypnosis. It's a powerful technique for relaxing the conscious mind so that the subconscious can be directed to act in the manner that will be most effective for generating a lot of money; instead of constantly … Continue reading…

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How To Meditate

A lot of people these days are stressed out to the max. There's work pressure, family pressure, relationship pressure, home pressure, financial pressure. Pressure, pressure, pressure. We race from one thing to the next in the eternal search for happiness, oblivious to the fact that the peace of mind and contentment that we seek already lies within. We just have to stop long enough to get in touch with it. But we're afraid of stopping because when we do, all the unpleasant emotions that lie between us and that inner peace come up and bite us. As a result, we push push push ourselves into ever increasing amounts of stress until we burn out and/or our health self-destructs.

What's the answer to dealing with the stresses of modern life? Personally I find meditation helpful and I do it every day. Lots of people are interested in meditation but just don't … Continue reading…

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How To Avoid Being Creative

Creativity is a hot topic these days. Everybody is talking about it, writing about it, studying it. It's such a pervasive topic, that it's getting hard to avoid. But still, there's hope: The best way I've found to avoid being creative is to spend all your time reading books on creativity. Here's a video in which I explain exactly how to do that:

Here are links to books I don't recommend in the video, but are actually really great and well worth reading:… Continue reading…

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A Practical Guide to How Your Brain Works

Given that our brain is where the thoughts, feelings, ideas, beliefs and decisions that guide our whole life arise I think it's helpful to have a rudimentary understanding of how it works so we can use it more effectively.

Your brain is the most complex system in the known universe. Over eighty billion massively interconnected neurons form the most complex parallel-processing biological computer imaginable, and it's right there in your head controlling your every move. Nobody fully understands how it works, which isn't at all surprising when you consider that we're using our brain to try to understand itself. That's like a computer trying to understanding itself. So I can hardly do it justice in a single article but here's a rough guide to the features I think are most important.

Consciousness and The Mind

The mind is a function of our brain. When people talk about “the mind”, they … Continue reading…

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Happiness by Matthieu Ricard

A Guide to Developing Life's Most Important Skill

I was put onto the audio edition of this book by a colleague from my Toastmasters club during a conversation about what makes us happy. The book is a fusion of eastern Buddhist philosophy and western scientific thinking on what it means to adopt happiness as a lasting state of mind. A key point reiterated here which I hear a lot these days is that true happiness is an internal state; it is not dependent on external factors. If we are relying on other people or external circumstances for our happiness, then we are always at the whims and mercies of things that are beyond our control. When we are at peace with who we are inside, our happiness can be based on internal factors over which we have much greater control.

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