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Mother Induced Social Phobia

No wonder you feel anxious

No wonder you feel anxious

A widely prevalent and highly debilitating form of extreme social anxiety caused by being raised by a controlling or domineering mother.

Often accompanied by Nice Guy Syndrome. Male sufferers tend to exhibit passive or submissive behaviour, especially around women. Symptoms include self-consciousness, panic attacks, social anxiety, depression and a lack of direction in life. Inner conflict and mental confusion typically results from excessive critical admonishments during childhood such as: "You're just like your father!"; who while overly passive, was in fact quite a decent bloke.… Continue reading…

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Feeling Depressed? Try having a Good Cry

I was feeling depressed on Tuesday. I'd been struggling with Chronic Fatigue for over a year, and it was one of the bad days when I woke up feeling like I'd been run over by a bus that just kept backing up and having another go me it over and over. I'd also spent over a year writing and publishing an ebook which wasn't selling. I was having a bad day and felt lousy.

Australian society doesn't do a great job of encouraging us guys to express how we feel, especially when we're down. Our English stiff-upper-lip cultural heritage combined with the rugged blokey mentality tells us that if you're a guy and you cry, there's something wrong with you. Yet crying is our natural way of releasing emotions of sadness or loss. When you have a good cry, it might feel painful and embarrassing at the time, but … Continue reading…

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The Happiness Trap by Dr Russ Harris, M.D.

My Life Coach recommended I read this book recently, at a time when I was struggling with some unpleasant feelings which seemed to be getting in the way of me achieving consistent lasting happiness. The book is practical guide to ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) with a subtitle that rang a chord with me: Stop struggling, start living.

The basic premise of The Happiness Trap is summed up when Dr Harris writes: "The more we try to avoid the basic reality that all human life involves pain, the more we are likely to struggle with that pain when it arises, thereby creating even more suffering." We spend a great deal of our lives seeking pleasant feelings and avoiding unpleasant ones, because we think that this is what will make us happy. But herein lies the trap: the techniques we use to avoid unpleasant feelings actually tend to reinforce … Continue reading…

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