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The Dance of Fear by Harriet Lerner

The main thing I got from this book is that fear and anxiety aren't just individual problems; they totally affect the way we relate with each other. Anxiety is contagious and gets passed around between us whenever we interact with anxious people. Families, companies, organisations, churches, countries and social groups of all kinds can become infected with anxiety that affects everyone in the group. When a social system becomes fear-based or shame-based, everyone in it suffers.

Since anxiety causes suffering, we naturally want to escape. One way of escaping is to dump our anxiety on someone else. Being a sensitive person, I've always been susceptible to having other people's anxiety dumped on me, but it's only now that I'm learning to recognise when this is happening.

This book helped me identify such a situation recently when I volunteered to lead a public speaking training course run by my Toastmaster's … Continue reading…

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The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

A great deal of our unhappiness is caused by us wallowing in regret about the past, or worrying about the future. Many of us spend relatively little time actually being connected to the present moment, which is ironic because the present moment is the only one we have available to us. The past has already happened and cannot be changed, and the future hasn't happened yet; we have relatively little real control over it either. So all we really have to work with is the present moment.

This book gives the clearest description I've come across of why it's important to remain connected to the present moment. It's particularly important when it comes to relationships with other people, since we're difficult to connect with when our minds are somewhere else.

There are many things that can cause us to lose this connection. Over-analysing puts us “in our heads” where we … Continue reading…

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