The Forgiveness Speech

[caption id="attachment_1981" align="alignright" width="300"]Look, it's on my to-do list, OK!?! Look, it's on my to-do list, OK!?![/caption] A form of unsolicited advice typically launched by anger denialists in response to me saying that I feel angry about something. Especially prominent when the anger is directed towards my mother in response to some form of destructive behaviour that she has indulged in for most of my life. The launch of The Forgiveness Speech typically goes something like this: Graham: “I feel angry when my mother criticises and belittles my father in front of me” Denialist: “You need to learn to forgive” (more…)

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The Top 10 Things That Make Me Angry

[caption id="attachment_1975" align="alignright" width="300"]I feel like this guy some times I feel like this guy some times[/caption] I've been doing a lot of work around anger lately; an emotion that I used to suppress and internalise much to my detriment. It's not healthy to suck down your rage. Now that I've started to release the internal pressure cooker, things have become a little explosive and everything seems to be pissing me off. So for your amusement, here are my Top 10 Things That Make Me Angry: (more…)

By Graham, ago

Not Everyone is Going To Like You

Ever since I was a kid, I've felt a burning desire to have other people like me; to be accepted. It's not unusual to want to fit in with other people, and perhaps you can relate. Often when I didn't feel accepted by other people, I thought the problem lay with me. But a recent interaction with a rather extreme neighbour was an opportunity in disguise to learn otherwise.

A few years back I moved into a block of flats in a neighbourhood not far from where I'd previously been living for several years. I knew the area well, but the immediate neighbours were all new. It wasn't long before I met a neighbour who I'll call Edward, who lived upstairs in the same building quite close to me. At first he was friendly and appeared very charming. A little too charming perhaps, to the point of being a bit … Continue reading…

By Graham, ago