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Path of Love
I went to Path of Love hoping that it would help me deal with a constant feeling of mild anxiety that I was experiencing. Whenever I wasn't engrossed in some activity, I felt anxious and I just couldn't seem to shake it.
David Guetta's "When Love Takes Over" (Featuring Kelly Rowland) always reminds me of my Path of Love Experience. Play it as you read along:
There were some obvious contributing factors: I had been ill with Chronic Fatigue for over two years, and although I was gradually recovering, my limited energy and feeling constantly unwell for such a long time was a constant source of frustration. I was also lacking direction generally: it had been about six years since I'd had a full-time job, and I was unsure how to find a new vocation earning money doing something that I loved again, especially with the added burden of illness. … Continue reading…
The Dance of Fear by Harriet Lerner
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Posted in Emotions Tagged Anxiety, communication, confidence, Daniel Goleman, Eckhart Tolle, fear, public speaking, self-confidence, Shame, speechcraft, toastmasters 2 Comments
Breakthrough To Success with Christopher Howard
Does the idea of spending three days with a bunch of positive, excited people in a rock-concert style atmosphere while learning how to drop limiting decisions from the past sound like fun to you? That's the best description I can give of Breakthrough To Success, and if you haven't been to one yet, it's time to get yourself along and check it out.
I made a whole bunch of limiting decisions about myself and about the world while I was growing up, and I find that each time I go along to this event, I come back a more loving person. Isn't that interesting?
Christopher Howard's work is based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), which has a bunch of tools and techniques for changing the way we think to overcome restrictive thought patterns. I admit to being a little sceptical of NLP, but many people I know who have learned it … Continue reading…
Posted in Mindset Tagged Christopher Howard, confidence, limiting beliefs, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, NLP, success Leave a comment
How to Tell Better Stories
The difference between a $100 public speaker and a $1000 speaker, is $1000 stories. If you want to be a more powerful public speaker and command higher fees, you need to tell better stories. With this in mind, I spent last weekend at a 2-Day Storytelling Bootcamp run by Craig Valentine and Darren LaCroix here in Sydney, Australia.
Craig and Darren are past World Champions of Public Speaking, and this was Craig's first visit to Australia. His specialty is Storytelling, so I really wanted to go along and learn from one of the best in the world. Craig has a great storytelling system where each story incorporates these elements:
- Curiosity.
- Characters.
- Escalating Conflict.
- A Cure, usually provided by a Guru.
- A Change in the emotion or attitude of one or more of the main characters.
- Conversations, depicted with dialogue rather than narration.
- A Carry-out message called a foundational phrase:
Lie To Me
One of my favourite TV shows is Lie To Me. Tim Roth plays Dr Cal Lightman, an eccentric expert in deception detection who runs his own consulting business primarily assisting lawyers and prosecutors get to the truth. There's always a story behind the story, and the trick is to work out who's lying about it. His techniques combine reading of facial microexpressions, body language, gestures and human behaviour to discern the true emotions of everyone involved; often including his own staff.
Having learned the art of stripping away people's facades to reveal what is really going on underneath, Dr Lightman has an arrogant edge about him, which is tempered by his paranoia and the painful dysfunctional relationships that he finds himself in. He sees through the white lies that other people spin to soften the real truth from him, and relies on his ability to cut through the protective … Continue reading…
Posted in Communication Tagged deception, drama, Human behavior, lies, Microexpression, Paul Ekman, Psychology, radical honesty, relationship, Social psychology, Sociology, television Leave a comment
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
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Into The Wild
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Posted in Emotions Tagged book, Christopher McCandless, conflict, Eddie Vedder, Emile Hirsch, family, film, Gordon Peterson, happiness, Jon Krakauer, Philosophy, relationship, Sean Penn., wilderness 2 Comments
Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton
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Posted in Communication Tagged anger, conflict, family, freedom, radical honesty, self-consciousness 5 Comments
Life Coach Training with Beyond Success
If you're interested in training to become a Life Coach, you might be interested in my experience of the Life Coach training course run by Beyond Success.
I first heard Paul Blackburn from Beyond Success speak at a Think and Grow Rich event run by Stuart Zadel, back in July 2007. At the time, I had been suffering from Chronic Fatigue for about 4 months, and was feeling very anxious, agitated, exhausted, and desperate about my future. Having visited a bunch of doctors with no success, I didn't know why I was ill or what to do about it. I was beginning to worry about how I was going to be able to earn money again in the future. I had burned out rather spectacularly from my Engineering career, and although I had plenty of available job offers the idea of going back to a job in an industry I … Continue reading…
Communication, Public Speaking, and Leadership Skills Development at Toastmasters
I've concluded that our ability to communicate authentically with other people is the most important life skill that we can possess. We often spend a great deal of our education learning how to analyse, think, solve problems, and understand how things work; but tend to downplay the importance of subjects that teach us how to communicate. The ability to communicate, inspire and influence other people is also a key leadership skill. Whether in business, relationships, or just in our personal lives, our ability to communicate our thoughts, feelings and ideas to other people is absolutely crucial to our success... and ultimately our happiness.
For the past couple of years, I've been improving my communication and leadership skills as a member of Chatswood Communicators Toastmasters club. I have to admit that I wasn't really thinking of becoming a world-class communicator when I first came across Toastmasters. In fact, I was … Continue reading…
