I was at a rebirthing/breathwork workshop on the weekend, and we did an exercise called Primal Law. Our Primal Law is our most negative belief about ourself. I started out with the usual list of negative thoughts about myself that I’ve come up with in workshops a million times before:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m bad
  • I’m wrong
  • I have nothing to offer
  • I will fail
No Wonder I Feel So Anxious

No Wonder We Feel So Anxious

But the one that really resonated with me was something somebody else came up with:

  • I’m not safe

Well, no wonder I feel so anxious with a Primal Law like that. The next step was to convert the Primal Law into an Eternal Law that represents the truth of our existence; even though it seems like a lie at first, given what we’ve been telling ourselves for so long.

So I’m not safe becomes:

  • I am safe.

The homework was to write our Eternal Law 20 times a day for 30 days.

I’ve decided to use copy-and-paste to save time:

Day 1

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

Day 2

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

Day 3

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 4

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 5

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 6

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 7

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 8

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 9

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 10

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 11

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 12

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 13

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 14

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Day 15

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Day 16

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 17

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Day 18

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Day 19

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Day 20

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 21

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Day 22

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 23

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Day 24

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Day 25

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Day 26

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 27

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 28

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 29

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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Day 30

I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.

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What I Learned

Well, to be honest, I think the truth is that life is precarious and my feelings of anxiety reflect that truth. Our very existence in this far-flung corner of a universe vast beyond human comprehension is improbable to begin with, and we cling to it like hanging on a thread. We tell ourselves all sorts of myths to assuage our primal fear of death, like promises of eternal bliss in a paradise after death, stories of past and future lives, and gods and goddesses who are supposedly looking out for us; all to make us feel better about the fact that we’re really not safe here. Even if all goes well, our lives have an expiry date on them; we just don’t know when that is going to be.

I feel anxious a lot of the time, and work hard to try and make that unpleasant feeling go away by examining it’s source. It’s reducing over time as I do more emotional healing work and exercise courage by facing my fears; but I suspect it’s always going to be there to some extent. The people who think you can make it go away entirely by becoming enlightened are probably suffering from spiritual perfectionism. When I become enlightened, I’ll let you know the truth about that.

In the mean time, the secret seems to be to accept that I’ll feel anxious sometimes because I know deep down that I’m not safe, but to take action to create the life I want anyway. I’ll leave you to your affirmations while I go do that.

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Graham Stoney

I help comedians overcome anxiety in the present by healing emotional pain from events in your past, so you can have a future you love... and have fun doing it.

1 Comment

Gav · September 14, 2015 at 12:09 am

Rofl!

Your best work to date!

I’m waking people up laughing….

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